And finally the one you've always wanted to ask but have been scared to. Well Bob has

[Meenzer 14055]

I have to admit I've always wondered why any man would want to get someone else's shit all over his bell end.

 

Not that I'm judging, of course.

I'd hope that most regular takers were capable of keeping themselves clean to some extent, and barebacking is so early 80s anyway.

[nufc4ever 0]

Refreshing honesty tbh Meenzer.

[Meenzer 14055]

Refreshing honesty tbh Meenzer.

Nee worries. There'll be a multiple-choice test next week.

 

Incidentally, the "scene" apparently does have a convoluted set of signals you can give as to what role you prefer, traditionally involving colour-coded hankies () and the like. Never seen it myself, but I believe it's basically only used (if at all any more) in places where one might go to find a casual hook-up - you know, just to cut out the risk of actually having to talk or anything like that. Since that's so spectacularly not me, I remain entirely innocent of such matters.

[nufc4ever 0]

Is it true that gay blokes can generally tell the straight people from a mile off, or is the 'gaydar' thing a big myth?

[Radgina 1]

Do you really want my take on it?

 

Obviously it's not like there's a 50% split between pitchers and catchers - plenty of guys would call themselves versatile, and a decent number of them aren't even lying just to widen the net of potential shaggees or anything. I'm not averse to the idea of being on the bottom myself at some point, as long as it's with someone I trust to do it right and be careful and all that, but I'm top generally and I have to say it'd be far more about giving my partner pleasure than filling any kind of deep-seated urge to do it on my part. As such, I can't really say from experience exactly what the appeal is for regular "takers", but I'd assume that the question isn't dissimilar to asking what a woman gets out of plain-vanilla hetero sex, since she's the one on the receiving end, if you'll pardon the simplification. All I know is we fellas have this prostate thingummy that we can probably safely compare with the G-spot for the purposes of this exercise, and therefore it's not the worst thing in the world to have stimulated by whatever means. And as mentioned above, with stimulation comes the possibility of a reacharound (or not around, depending on the position) or doing a Jimbo on yourself while your partner's jackhammering away or whatever.

 

In terms of attraction and knowing who's who/what... for whatever reason, it'll often follow that the more "masculine" men are tops and the more "feminine" men are bottoms, and also that they won't be attracted to their own type. But obviously it doesn't always work like that - just look at the bear scene, for a start, though I'd rather not - and when it's not screamingly obvious, you do get into situations where you'll end up with someone who generally prefers to be the same role as you. In some cases one person will be "versatile" enough to not mind being on the other end of the equation to usual, other times it just doesn't happen.

 

It's worth noting that a common belief about us deviants appears to be that we're all about the back-door action. It's quite the opposite in my experience - oral (regular, 69 or whatever) is so much more straightforward, less role-bound, less messy, less awkward/potentially painful/damaging and - albeit not particularly accurately - less associated with nasty diseases than anal, so it tends to enjoy widespread currency in gay circles. Often you'll get couples who've been together for years and years and hardly ever had anal sex at all.

 

Now are you sure you still want my take on it?

 

well done to you young fela me lad!!!

[GeordieMessiah 0]

Meenzer

 

Thanks for such a lucid, candid myth-busting response. I apologise for trolling...that's so not me. Normally.

[Park Life 70]

Rome, Athens and vast swathes of culture, literature and philosophy were built on it.

[Radgina 1]

Meenzer

 

Thanks for such a lucid, candid myth-busting response. I apologise for trolling...that's so not me. Normally.

 

liar

[GeordieMessiah 0]

Meenzer

 

Thanks for such a lucid, candid myth-busting response. I apologise for trolling...that's so not me. Normally.

 

liar

 

Aye, OK. I troll like fuck.

 

But I do genuinely appreciate Meenzer's candour. Found it very...educational!

[Radgina 1]

Meenzer

 

Thanks for such a lucid, candid myth-busting response. I apologise for trolling...that's so not me. Normally.

 

liar

 

Aye, OK. I troll like fuck.

 

But I do genuinely appreciate Meenzer's candour. Found it very...educational!

moi aussi, hence my thanks

[Tooj 17]

Meenzer's a top lad to be fair to him especially explaining such matters like that to the masses, although at the Citeh game I shan't be taking my lucky hanky with me that's for certain.

[Meenzer 14055]

Meenzer

 

Thanks for such a lucid, candid myth-busting response. I apologise for trolling...that's so not me. Normally.

 

liar

 

Aye, OK. I troll like fuck.

 

But I do genuinely appreciate Meenzer's candour. Found it very...educational!

 

Aw shucks. You lot better stop it though, I'm starting to feel like I've just been scripting a Very Special Blossom or something...

[Meenzer 14055]

Is it true that gay blokes can generally tell the straight people from a mile off, or is the 'gaydar' thing a big myth?

Bloody good question really! Varies from person to person I reckon. My gaydar isn't outrageously sharp, though fuck knows it's improved a lot since living in Hamburg and London. It's inevitable that you hide a lot more of yourself somewhere like Newcastle or any smaller city I guess. Anyway, gaydar's probably a bit of a myth really - it stands to reason that you'll recognise your own traits in other people, after all, and I bet a lot of it's a self-confidence thing, both on the part of the person doing the observing and the person being observed. And the whole point of gaydar - picking up on subtle clues about the other person - is really only a variation on the kind of things everyone does when weighing up people in everyday life anyway.

 

Of course, the rise of metrosexuality has made life a bit more difficult, though generally even the most comfortable-with-himself heterosexual male wearer of a pink T-shirt will still project an aura of "I'm only doing this because I hear the lasses like it, so don't even think about it, RuPaul."

[Meenzer 14055]

although at the Citeh game I shan't be taking my lucky hanky with me that's for certain.

Heartbreaker!

 

Mind if I stare intently at your back pockets anyway?

[Radgina 1]

Is it true that gay blokes can generally tell the straight people from a mile off, or is the 'gaydar' thing a big myth?

Bloody good question really! Varies from person to person I reckon. My gaydar isn't outrageously sharp, though fuck knows it's improved a lot since living in Hamburg and London. It's inevitable that you hide a lot more of yourself somewhere like Newcastle or any smaller city I guess. Anyway, gaydar's probably a bit of a myth really - it stands to reason that you'll recognise your own traits in other people, after all, and I bet a lot of it's a self-confidence thing, both on the part of the person doing the observing and the person being observed. And the whole point of gaydar - picking up on subtle clues about the other person - is really only a variation on the kind of things everyone does when weighing up people in everyday life anyway.

 

Of course, the rise of metrosexuality has made life a bit more difficult, though generally even the most comfortable-with-himself heterosexual male wearer of a pink T-shirt will still project an aura of "I'm only doing this because I hear the lasses like it, so don't even think about it, RuPaul."

 

now you see I pride myself on my "gaydar" ...have even managed to "tell" a few peeps from work which way they must be swinging but it can be a pain in the arse "lnot literally" when you see someone out in Toon who looks lush to have your gaydar strumming ...

[Park Life 70]

Is it true that gay blokes can generally tell the straight people from a mile off, or is the 'gaydar' thing a big myth?

Bloody good question really! Varies from person to person I reckon. My gaydar isn't outrageously sharp, though fuck knows it's improved a lot since living in Hamburg and London. It's inevitable that you hide a lot more of yourself somewhere like Newcastle or any smaller city I guess. Anyway, gaydar's probably a bit of a myth really - it stands to reason that you'll recognise your own traits in other people, after all, and I bet a lot of it's a self-confidence thing, both on the part of the person doing the observing and the person being observed. And the whole point of gaydar - picking up on subtle clues about the other person - is really only a variation on the kind of things everyone does when weighing up people in everyday life anyway.

 

Of course, the rise of metrosexuality has made life a bit more difficult, though generally even the most comfortable-with-himself heterosexual male wearer of a pink T-shirt will still project an aura of "I'm only doing this because I hear the lasses like it, so don't even think about it, RuPaul."

 

Most gay blokes believe any man can be 'turned'...

[nufc4ever 0]

Is it true that gay blokes can generally tell the straight people from a mile off, or is the 'gaydar' thing a big myth?

Bloody good question really! Varies from person to person I reckon. My gaydar isn't outrageously sharp, though fuck knows it's improved a lot since living in Hamburg and London. It's inevitable that you hide a lot more of yourself somewhere like Newcastle or any smaller city I guess. Anyway, gaydar's probably a bit of a myth really - it stands to reason that you'll recognise your own traits in other people, after all, and I bet a lot of it's a self-confidence thing, both on the part of the person doing the observing and the person being observed. And the whole point of gaydar - picking up on subtle clues about the other person - is really only a variation on the kind of things everyone does when weighing up people in everyday life anyway.

 

Of course, the rise of metrosexuality has made life a bit more difficult, though generally even the most comfortable-with-himself heterosexual male wearer of a pink T-shirt will still project an aura of "I'm only doing this because I hear the lasses like it, so don't even think about it, RuPaul."

 

 

Cheers.

Edited March 24, 2007 by nufc4ever

[Meenzer 14055]

now you see I pride myself on my "gaydar" ...have even managed to "tell" a few peeps from work which way they must be swinging but it can be a pain in the arse "lnot literally" when you see someone out in Toon who looks lush to have your gaydar strumming ...

Call me presumptuous, but I imagine one of the reasons you laydeez are good at the gaydar thing - and lord knows you bloody well can be - is because, by and large, the gay lads will be the ones who aren't falling over themselves to get into your pants?

[Radgina 1]

now you see I pride myself on my "gaydar" ...have even managed to "tell" a few peeps from work which way they must be swinging but it can be a pain in the arse "lnot literally" when you see someone out in Toon who looks lush to have your gaydar strumming ...

Call me presumptuous, but I imagine one of the reasons you laydeez are good at the gaydar thing - and lord knows you bloody well can be - is because, by and large, the gay lads will be the ones who aren't falling over themselves to get into your pants?

 

I beg to differ Meenz my sweet ...it may be because they are "better dressed" tho

[Park Life 70]

now you see I pride myself on my "gaydar" ...have even managed to "tell" a few peeps from work which way they must be swinging but it can be a pain in the arse "lnot literally" when you see someone out in Toon who looks lush to have your gaydar strumming ...

Call me presumptuous, but I imagine one of the reasons you laydeez are good at the gaydar thing - and lord knows you bloody well can be - is because, by and large, the gay lads will be the ones who aren't falling over themselves to get into your pants?

 

I beg to differ Meenz my sweet ...it may be because they are "better dressed" tho

 

Good point....Too much attention to detail.

[Meenzer 14055]

now you see I pride myself on my "gaydar" ...have even managed to "tell" a few peeps from work which way they must be swinging but it can be a pain in the arse "lnot literally" when you see someone out in Toon who looks lush to have your gaydar strumming ...

Call me presumptuous, but I imagine one of the reasons you laydeez are good at the gaydar thing - and lord knows you bloody well can be - is because, by and large, the gay lads will be the ones who aren't falling over themselves to get into your pants?

 

I beg to differ Meenz my sweet ...it may be because they are "better dressed" tho

 

Good point....Too much attention to detail.

 

That'll be why I seem to fall under the ol' gaydar radar a lot of the time then. I doubt I'll have a shave or check myself in the mirror before the Man City pissup even if Jonny promises to whip out his hanky.

[Radgina 1]

now you see I pride myself on my "gaydar" ...have even managed to "tell" a few peeps from work which way they must be swinging but it can be a pain in the arse "lnot literally" when you see someone out in Toon who looks lush to have your gaydar strumming ...

Call me presumptuous, but I imagine one of the reasons you laydeez are good at the gaydar thing - and lord knows you bloody well can be - is because, by and large, the gay lads will be the ones who aren't falling over themselves to get into your pants?

 

I beg to differ Meenz my sweet ...it may be because they are "better dressed" tho

 

Good point....Too much attention to detail.

 

corretamundo...and thay look FANTASTIC !!!!

[Kid Dynamite 5908]

Our staff night out at work last week ended up in the yard gay bar as the lass whos birthday it was is a lemon.

 

what a horrible place. Im happy for people to be gay but is there any need for them to act like mincing little puffs all night! Every fucker in there was swanning around like julian clary sticking their tongues down random blokes throats, making shit cock jokes over the karaoke and generally doing their best john inman impressions.

 

If you must have sex with men then whats wrong with acting like a normal human the rest of the time?

[GeordieMessiah 0]

Oooh Radgi!!! Can I join your faghag gang?!

[Meenzer 14055]

Good point....Too much attention to detail.

 

corretamundo...and thay look FANTASTIC !!!!

 

So the truly reliable gaydar is seeing whether you're trying to get into their pants then?