Renton 24777 Posted 5 hours ago Share Posted 5 hours ago 4 hours ago, spongebob toonpants said: Not much to add, but self-doubt and being your own harshest critic is the curse that comes with being highly intelligent and empathetic, which you plainly are. Ignorance is bliss sadly Stick with it and don't be too hard on yourself Just seen this. @Rayvin, I'm quoting Spongey here as he is spot on. Loads of good advice from others and I'd struggle to add to it. What I would say though is when I was at my lowest ebb you absolutely were there for me and were a big factor in getting through it, both publicly and in your private messages. You've got remarkable empathy and compassion, but with that comes a tendency for self criticism and introspection which you 100% don't deserve. Keep going, you mention you are renting from a mate and there is a possible business opportunity with another one coming up relatively soon, so you have friends. I am sure you are much more liked and loved than you will ever credit yourself. Things will come good for you, I am sure of it. And never feel embarrassed about offloading on here, what do you young ones say..... yes, please always reach out when you are feeling down. Your darker thoughts scare me, I've been there, like you, only for fleeting moments thankfully. But that is bad enough. 8 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christmas Tree 5571 Posted 5 hours ago Share Posted 5 hours ago 2 hours ago, Dr Gloom said: you were on six figures slinging sofas at DFS? Aye, including bonus. luckily I wasn’t on it that long that it had become “normal” lifestyle money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkeys Fist 46807 Posted 3 hours ago Share Posted 3 hours ago @Rayvin Not much more I can add that hasn’t been said , but keep your chin up mate. I went through the wringer career-wise and financially a few years back thanks to my cunt former partner, but it made me realise that money is not the be-all and end-all. Get yourself down to your local climbing wall, it’s a great way to de-stress, superb exercise and the blart is usually top notch 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blastronaut 1370 Posted 1 hour ago Share Posted 1 hour ago Hey @Rayvin, you've already got great replies from pretty much everyone here. I'm just jumping in to say it sounds like we're roughly similar ages and I can categorically tell you you have absolutely not failed at life and have absolutely nothing to be ashamed about. You were so fucking close to reaching your goal, and it must be devastating to have to write that off for now and use those savings as a safety net, but you can get back there. You mentioned that a lot of your friends or peers all have their own houses, partners and kids. I'd bet my left testicle most of them have gone through (or are going through) long periods of uncertainty and felt the same way you do now. And I'll bet my right testicle that some of the ones who look like they've got it all worked out and are just cruising through life are actually fucking miserable. People who judge you on your employment status, job title, relationship status, or stuff like whether or not you own your own home are miserable cunts. Don't judge yourself on their standards. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rayvin 6643 Posted 1 hour ago Share Posted 1 hour ago 7 minutes ago, Blastronaut said: Hey @Rayvin, you've already got great replies from pretty much everyone here. I'm just jumping in to say it sounds like we're roughly similar ages and I can categorically tell you you have absolutely not failed at life and have absolutely nothing to be ashamed about. You were so fucking close to reaching your goal, and it must be devastating to have to write that off for now and use those savings as a safety net, but you can get back there. You mentioned that a lot of your friends or peers all have their own houses, partners and kids. I'd bet my left testicle most of them have gone through (or are going through) long periods of uncertainty and felt the same way you do now. And I'll bet my right testicle that some of the ones who look like they've got it all worked out and are just cruising through life are actually fucking miserable. People who judge you on your employment status, job title, relationship status, or stuff like whether or not you own your own home are miserable cunts. Don't judge yourself on their standards. I appreciate that man, thanks. Though I will say, I do actually hope my friends are as happy as they seem to be. Aside from not wanting to pull anyone down, it gives me some hope in the end. But you're right, we all go through things. I dunno, at least I'm fortunate with having good people around me, this board very much included. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renton 24777 Posted 1 hour ago Share Posted 1 hour ago 1 hour ago, Monkeys Fist said: the blart is usually top notch Oh aye, now it becomes clear. "Erm, you lead and I'll second love" "And while your ahead, can you remove that annoying gettyimages watermark from your arse love, cheers 👍" YOU DISGUST ME. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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