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i think they just turn a blind eye to that as there is little in it.

I mean I still have my day to day consulting work, I'm "employed" maybe 2.5 days a week as it is. I'm covering everything I need to, just can't move forward. Something beyond that would be ideal really so you're not wrong. It couldn't be ubers though, my anxiety doesn't permit me to drive (I've probably undersold how bad that is over the years...believe me, I shouldn't be driving!) You're also right about the house, it would have been far worse to get it and then have the bottom fall out of everything. Honestly I feel a little better for having shared this and just reading what people are saying, so I appreciate that genuinely.

If that's the case just about every kick from hands should be a free kick, seen plenty keepers grab the ball from the air stood at the edge of their area too, never seen one given as a free-kick. I have no idea what the rule is btw.

Or you could look at it as a lucky escape. If you'd ploughed all your savings into the house and suddenly didn't have much income to pay the mortgage then you'd be much worse off. I hear there's a good living to be made selling mugs on Etsy btw. Not to push you into the CT lifestyle but what about even something like Uber driving for now until you get something more permanent? It helps pay the bills and gives you a reason to get up in the morning.

the position of the goalkeepers feet is irrelevant its the location of the ball that matters. the ball was wholly outside the area so had it been seen by the referee in real time it would have been at least a handball.

Get yourself one of those synth/sequencers I've been posting and we'll become the next daft punk.

I'd also add @Rayvin that I'd be highly surprised if any of the regulars on here have achieved any less than me academically when we're talking about bad decisions, laziness or whatever and I'm not an unintelligent lad which probably makes it worse. The idea that you've failed in life seems you're being extremely harsh on yourself I have to say. There's nothing worse than some knacker asking you 'what do you do?' because ultimately whatever someone does to earn a crust means Jack Shit tbh, (I had a sample of this yesterday during the match with two otherwise decent lads). Work is something we need to do but it absolutely does not define us, you're obviously a good lad and as daft as it may seem that can get you a lot further in life than you might realise right now when you feel right up against it.

Are we saying it's handball because his slap of the ball was outside the verticle imaginary line of the box ? He was bodily inside the box for me but the touch was outside so is that actually a handball ? If it is, they better start booking keepers who kick it out from their hands because they all handle outside the box.

you definitely haven't failed at life mate. you forged a career as a management consultant and you have been making a freelance living for more than half a decade. these are things to be proud of. it might not be easy to see that during this difficult moment but a lot of people could only dream of a career like yours. keep your chin up. you're a highly intelligent, articulate and likeable bloke. this puts you in a great position to get through this. sounds like you just need a bit of luck to help restore your confidence.

Also what might help is giving yourself a hobby with process/meaning with marked achievements - I.e start weightlifting or learning music, class for the menty h because even if the rest of your life is going tits up you can derive meaning from those kind of things

Not so much the salary (I'm not looking to earn a fortune here, I just want to be able to live) bit that bothers me but I know what you mean - and yeah it's difficult cos most of my peers have homes, families, etc. And here's me living alone in a below market rate rented place (favour from a friend) just trying to hang on I think about teaching sometimes, maybe folding back into academia properly. I might give it more thought I suppose. Part of what has knocked me in all this is how close I was to reaching my goal last year and buying my own place. That was years of concerted effort to get my consulting to the right point that a bank would even consider it. All wasted now as that last year torpedoes the whole thing. Such is life.

The judge went to visit there house and there were 20 balls in their bushes. Chuck them back, you pair of pricks. You're millionaires, build a big net fence to stop them coming over.

Cunts.

Comparison is the thief of joy… Keep your chin up, most people never earn that kind of salary anyway & it’s an absolutely brutal jobs market at the moment. Last year my place had a lady in who had a PHD in quantum physics interviewing for an admin role. She didn’t get it. Have you any Skills that you can teach? That’s always an option.

Thanks for your thoughts lads. My experience with recruiters has generally been fairly challenging but maybe I need to look outside my field more. I used to be pretty confident on my CV but it's clearly not working for me these days. It's been about a year since I started looking around, 6 months since it became a high priority. I'll see what I can do with it anyway, redo it once more. Yeah maybe I'm too down on myself now to get the jobs I should be going for - problem is the longer it goes on the less competent I feel either way. I'm just tired of having to fight so hard, something that actually spans beyond this past year and into even the 'good' times. All that stress and anxiety making it all work, for nothing really. Just to address the 'worry' side of it that Gemmill mentioned - I don't think I'm in any danger of anything but it can sometimes be hard to tell. I have moments where ending everything looks like the only safe way of escaping a lot of it, but it never feels like it's anything other than a fleeting thought, just something to reassure myself with as perverse as that might sound (no one relies or depends on me for anything so I don't have the usual burdens of consequence that others might have - I live alone, fairly isolated at times, so these thoughts can come). In my heart of hearts, I genuinely believe I have failed at life - what remains ahead of me is really just to see if I can redeem any of it. I haven't given up yet though, I'll be ok. I just need something to go my way.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2025/may/19/couple-successfully-sue-council-over-schools-footballs-landing-in-garden-of-2m-home These cunts. One every other day ffs. If the kid next door to me is playing football, I might get the ball coming over 5 times in an afternoon. You just chuck it back when you see it. But not if you're a rich cunt. Then you have to try and actually stop kids from being able to play football so that it doesn't stop you swimming in your pool or having your annual summer party. Fuck these people. Fair play to the judge. Here's a grand and a comment that will upset you a lot more.

if that was at the other end city would have been down to 10 men. 100% convinced of that.

I'm hoping things can turn around or something turns up for you as they invariably do even though it seems like it's never going to happen at the time, we've all had our moments of venting or feeling sorry for ourselves on here when we're down and I'm no different so make that at least one worry to chuck in the bin.

nah he cushions it past the keeper with the outside of his foot. as soon as henderson slapped it away haaland curves his run to chase it. if henderson isn't there haaland gets a shot on goal. which is an obvious goal scoring opportunity. i'm obviously biased and not over it. i'll try not to reply when you restate your point as discussing it just winds me up more and i need to calm down. it's done.

That Rashford one was mental. He practically stepped over the ball iirc and clearly impacted the defender's decision making.

If that’s any other game than a cup final they are giving the red. As absurd as that may sound…

Aye, Craig thought that red card was justified too. At least he's consistent in his wrongness.

Burn and Havertz have history…

And the VAR assistant was Darren Cann even though back in 2017..... Assistant referee Darren Cann has been axed from Crystal Palace's FA Cup clash with Manchester City after it was revealed he once played for the Eagles. Cann played for Palace in the late 1980s, before ending his playing career and moving into officiating in 1991. guess they forgot again. no wonder city fans think "they're out to get us however they cann"

Not for me, Clive. If you look at Haaland’s foot just before the keeper touches it and the angle of his run then he’s clearly going to take the ball wide rather than through on goal. Plus there were two Palace defenders covering had done that.