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  1. just got home. there was a thatchers in the fridge, rolled a single skinner sat in the back.garden looking at the full moon and thinking life is fucking wonderful.
    14 points
  2. RIP Mrs Fist. Bit sick to get the kid involved though.
    14 points
  3. I've come to the conclusion you just can't have Gerard and Lampard in the same division
    13 points
  4. If there was a magic bullet that worked for everyone then I suppose no one would have a drinking problem in the first place. And it's not like what I've done has been flawlessly successful - I lapsed several times in my first year, and I had a few more wobbles during the worst of the Covid lockdowns too. But I think it's really important not to see that as a "back to square one" failure like AA would have you believe. For me the main thing is the intent. If you come to the conclusion that you really do want to (and need to) stop drinking, and you start taking steps to achieving that, it's completely fine to fuck up along the way as long as you're moving in the right direction overall. Think of it as training for a marathon. You wouldn't expect every training run to be better than the last one - you'll have days where it doesn't go like you want it to, you'll have injuries and niggles and setbacks and days when you can't be arsed, all of that. The main thing is the broader picture. That's why I see December 2013 as "when I stopped drinking", even if I haven't abstained completely ever since - it's the moment when it clicked with me, even if it took a while to unlearn some pretty unhealthy behaviours and get the right tools in place. Absolutely no one can do that from one day to the next, and if they say they can, they're a liar (or they're setting themselves up for a massive relapse one day). So I think you do need to internalise what you said there - "the negatives now greatly outweigh the positives" - and keep hammering that home until it begins to stick. "Never drinking again" does feel like a big imposition when you frame it like that, but "never feeling like absolute shit after drinking again" is a pretty good incentive if you can flip it round that way instead. For what it's worth, I went to in-person meetings with a group called SMART Recovery for about nine months in 2014-15 (and then again online for a few months after my lockdown wobble). I found them really useful, and I don't think they're necessarily just for people who have a more "conventional" addiction (i.e. using every day or whatever). They deal in science-based approaches, digging into why we do what we do and challenging the thinking that leads you to engage in addictive behaviours. A lot of it is CBT-adjacent, cost-benefit analyses, that kind of thing - the stuff your logical brain knows really but that you're liable to throw out of the window when you're feeling shit and just want to get blitzed, so the more you work through it and internalise it, the more chance there is of you applying it when it comes to the crunch. I don't know if there's anything like that around your way, but I'd definitely recommend an evidence-/science-based approach over AA, which I tried for one meeting and found to be absolutely depressing - all that "I realised I was powerless in the face of my addiction" stuff - bollocks. The choice to drink is just that, it's a choice you make, so you can also choose not to. The point is not to surrender yourself to your feelings, but to work out what it is you're feeling and what you're telling yourself that gives you the "permission" to make that choice in the first place against your better judgement - and, consequently, how to make different decisions in the moment. (Absolutely no shade meant on AA, it works well for a lot of people, I just think you're probably like me in the way your brain approaches these things and I imagine you'd benefit from something more rational.) In practical terms, cravings are definitely a right bugger, and for all they've lessened greatly for me over time, they still kick in in my weaker moments. There's nothing that definitely always works for me - it's a bit different every time. Sometimes a non-alcoholic drink scratches the itch enough (including in a pub environment, if you feel confident to do so without hitting a real drink - sometimes "low-stakes social contact" is actually the itch that needs scratching), sometimes pigging out on unhealthy food does the trick (not exactly a long-term option, but practically speaking it's a far lesser evil in the moment), or sometimes you just need to distract yourself or exercise or just get out of the house and have a change of scene until you can ride it out. Weirdly I found myself eating loads of Haribo after I first stopped, without asking myself why - turns out the body craves the sugar as much as the actual effect of the alcohol, so that's quite a common side-effect of stopping drinking. Tangfastics instead of Tanqueray. Who knew? I realise the above is all a bit stream-of-consciousness and I'm not sure any of it will be actively useful, but there's some jumping-off points there at least. Feel free to PM me any time if you want to, obviously, though if you're happy keeping the discussion here then it might help others too, you never know!
    13 points
  5. Yesterday I told you that audios of the owners of Valencia are leaking. Okay. One leaked last night. In it, Anyl Murthy (the owner) says that Valencia is a beautiful city, but that they don't know how to export the club's brand. And for comparison, he says: 'Newcastle is a shitty city. But on the other hand, the club, at the sponsorship level, knows how to move'. This gentleman hasn't been eating at Greggs.
    12 points
  6. I loved this match, I love this club (feels like ours again at long fucking last), and I love this team. I don't care if we ever win anything, this is what I wanted us to be again and it's back already. Just reading through the Arsenal forum match thread and they're all sat there laughing about Joelinton being our biggest weakness, how they've got nothing to worry about etc. Then the shock hits as they can't get the fucking ball. "Newcastle won't keep up this intensity, the crowd will shout themselves out, we just need to survive this then professionally dispose of them". Then we scored and they were all talking about how we were going to park the bus More stunned silence follows as they still can't get anything going and we go on to get a second. We're not some lower league makeweight happy to even be at the same table as you, Arsenal fans, you condescending pricks. When you come up here we absolutely will be going for the win, and you're gonna have to dig a lot fucking deeper than you just did to walk way with anything at all. Or you're going to get battered up and down the pitch, as you just were. Beautiful stuff, I love it. Great way to sign off the season and a shot across the fucking bow for the rest of the league.
    12 points
  7. The Karate Flid.
    12 points
  8. Just to say I have my own 'small time football blather' moment going on. My team are currently top of their league and have to play 3rd, 2nd and 7th away from home conversely. Might not seem much but when I took over 5 years ago they were 3rd bottom in the bottom of 3 divisions, happy if they didn't get thrashed 8-nil and over the moon if they scored a goal. This season they've played 13 and won 12 of them - the one loss was a 2-1 defeat when our goalkeeper was missing through Covid and one of the outfield players took his place. Might seem little to everyone else, but it's an achievement to these lads. I took over 18 months after they were splintered off the main team in a definite A & B split with us being the B-team. And now we're confirmed as top two in the league and got to the last 16 in the county cup.
    12 points
  9. The technique on display from Bruno/Almiron from this angle is incredible.
    12 points
  10. "5 is a bit excessive, I think it might be 5" (safety )
    11 points
  11. 11 points
  12. Cat’s eyes for me like
    11 points
  13. Tough tough test for us. Would like to see us competing better than we have against the top sides. If Liverpool play like today I think we can get 3 points. However I cannot see it. The big toothed cunt in charge won't allow them to do that and they are starting ahead of City so will want to pressure on them. 'H'way Lads, get a point min and I'll treat thee to tha laundary doing pet'
    11 points
  14. Pickford’s out of reach
    11 points
  15. No but it’s just taken me three minutes to straighten my fingers
    11 points
  16. I love the bit where it dawns on them our displays are actually thought out. Maybe it’s because it wasn’t hastily ripped off our rivals a few week before, fucking trampy cunts. I’ve not checked but have any of the following threads been created yet? ”eeeeeyah marras do I microwave my Herons brand lasagne at home, or just sit and fart on it the whole bus ride down, want to make sure the cheese is extra melty, yi knaar a classy touch” ”just a tip from club legend Will Storey, if you pour your pot noodles directly into your coat pocket the speccys on the gates at Wembley won’t confiscate it. Added bonus that it gets you warm and gets rid of the smell from a night kipping under the bus we drove down in. FTM.”
    10 points
  17. I do have to say though that the Jamal Khashoggi jigsaw set for sale in the club shop might be in bad taste.
    10 points
  18. 10 points
  19. FFS how many Longstaff brothers are there?
    10 points
  20. After getting everyone invested in Everton's demise this IS NOT ON! Least you can do is keep it up till there's mathematical possibility ffs.
    10 points
  21. 'Cause Wood's running into space But ASM finding him is against all odds At least Schär's got a nice face
    10 points
  22. Do you think that deep down he regrets leaving Everton?
    10 points
  23. Reminds me of the time I was in Mykonos (my sister got married on a Mediterranean cruise and it was one of the stops) and my cousin’s husband (Mackem I might add ) said to me in slight trepidation “What’s that?” I said “it’s a pelican”. He replied “fucking hell, I thought it was a dinosaur!” It was only when I saw his face that I realised he was being serious. Aye, mate. You can still get dinosaurs in Greece
    10 points
  24. Did you? Bit over the top for when watching a Liverpool match, Wykiki lad, but finding the positives, we've finally found someone you appear not to hate.
    10 points
  25. 10 points
  26. If Benitez was still there and they were about 6-10 points better off they’d still be giving him dog’s abuse because the Everton fans think they should have better. On RTG recently they were going on about us calling them Scouse Mackems and the Sunderland fans seemed as though they were unaware of the phrase, despite it being decades old. The inevitable conclusion on their part was it’s because we think we’re on a par with Liverpool. No, you stupid cunts, it’s because Everton fans are also bitter as fuck, forever in the shadow of their rivals and unable to have any real perspective about the size and relevance of their club.
    10 points
  27. Yeah, I'm sure you were throwing your weight around in school Craig.
    10 points
  28. Don't apologise man. You've been through the ringer. It's perfectly human to feel your feelings. You don't need to 'snap out of it', you just need time to process it. And while there is a lot to process, you can absolutely do it. You just need a little help, that's all. If that help comes from reading dumb shit on here about CT's micropenis, or Wykiki ranting about... whatever the fuck bee is in his bonnet today, then that's grand. If that help comes from writing out what's on your mind, then do that too.
    10 points
  29. Eddie Howe finally beating Steve Bruce’s points total from last season.
    9 points
  30. Might get myself a white & green top with BIN SALMAN 85 on the back because I’m so sportswashed baby.
    9 points
  31. Looks like someone put Oscar the Grouch in a blender.
    9 points
  32. One of the lads my son plays with was going to reserve game near the start of the season. The lad had his Wallsend Boys Club trackie top on. Anyway Elliot Anderson came up to them, started chatting and saying he used to play for Wallsend and got his photo taken with the lad etc. The dad was saying Anderson seems like a lovely lad. Obviously that’s just an anecdote that doesn’t prove a lot but it suggests he’s got a decent head on his shoulders. I know what he’s done at Bristol Rovers doesn’t mean he’s ready to walk into the first team but, like others have said, it’s great to hear about a loanee doing well at another club for once. It would be brilliant to see a local lad make the grade here though. It’s been far too long since that’s happened
    9 points
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